Why Do People Use Sex Toys? | A Complete Guide for Beginners
People reach for sex toys for all kinds of reasons — and all of them are valid:
1. Enhanced Pleasure
Toys can create sensations that hands, mouths, or genitals simply can’t replicate. Vibrations, suction, thrusting, texture — they can all intensify arousal and orgasms.
2. Solo Exploration
Sex toys allow you to learn what your body responds to. This can improve your confidence and make partnered sex more satisfying because you know how to guide your partner.
3. Partnered Play
Using toys together can:
- add novelty and excitement
- help you explore fantasies
- improve communication
- build intimacy
4. Support for Sexual Health
Toys can also help with:
- low libido
- erectile dysfunction
- difficulty reaching orgasm
- pelvic floor strength
- post-menopause changes
- disability-related sexual challenges
5. Expanding Sexual Horizons
Sometimes toys reveal desires you didn’t know you had — whether that’s loving anal play, enjoying deeper penetration, or discovering your love of vibration.
Below is a breakdown of the most popular categories, what they’re used for, and who might enjoy them.
1. Dildos
Best for: Internal stimulation (vaginal or anal), thrusting, g-spot or p-spot play
Key features: Firm, shaped for penetration, no vibration
Dildos are simple but incredibly versatile. They come in silicone, glass, stainless steel, and more. Some have curved tips for g-spot or prostate stimulation, and others are designed for temperature play.
Why people love them:
- They offer deep, controlled pressure.
- They’re great for exploring anatomy.
- They pair well with harnesses for strap-on play.
2. Vibrators
Best for: Clitoral stimulation, internal stimulation, nipple play, full-body pleasure
Key features: Vibrating motors, different speeds/patterns, wide range of shapes
Not all vibrators are the same — each type creates a unique sensation:
Clitoral Vibrators
Small and powerful. Perfect for beginners and for boosting orgasms during partnered sex.
Rabbit Vibrators
Dual-stimulation toys with internal and external arms. Provide a blended orgasm that many people find intense and satisfying.
Wand Massagers
Large, strong, rumbly vibrations. Ideal for those who want very powerful sensations.
Air Pulse / Suction Toys
Stimulate the clitoris without direct contact, using pulses of air that mimic suction. Known for producing fast, intense orgasms.
3. Anal Toys
Anal toys are for anyone with a butt — not just one gender. With the right preparation, anal play can lead to heightened orgasms, deeper pleasure, and exciting new sensations.
Butt Plugs
Stay-in-place toys designed to create fullness and pressure.
Anal Beads
Inserted gradually; provides a unique “wave” sensation when pulled out during orgasm.
Prostate Massagers
Shaped to stimulate the prostate (a pleasure center sometimes called the “male g-spot”). These can create extremely strong orgasms.
Important:
Always use plenty of lube and choose toys with a flared base to prevent slipping inside.
4. Penis Toys
Cock Rings
Worn around the base of the penis to help:
- maintain stronger erections
- delay ejaculation
- intensify orgasms
They come in silicone, rubber, or sometimes vibrating versions that stimulate both partners.
Penis Strokers / Masturbators
These mimic the sensations of oral, vaginal, or anal sex. Some have internal textures, suction features, or vibrating functions.
Why people enjoy them:
They create unique sensations that hands alone can’t reproduce.
5. Couples’ Toys
Strap-Ons & Harnesses
Used for pegging, queer sex, role play, and switching dynamics.
Remote-Controlled Vibrators
Great for long-distance play or teasing during date nights.
Love Eggs / Wearable Vibrators
Inserted or worn under clothing; can be controlled by a partner for discreet, playful fun.
Double-Ended Toys
Designed for shared penetration during partnered sessions.
Here’s how to narrow down your options:
1. Decide what sensation you want
- Deep pressure? → Dildo
- Intense buzz? → Vibrator
- Feeling of fullness? → Plug
- Stronger erection? → Cock ring
- Hands-free anal pleasure? → Prostate massager
2. Choose a safe material
Look for:
- medical-grade silicone
- stainless steel
- glass (borosilicate)
- ABS plastic
Avoid toys made of jelly or anything that smells strongly of chemicals.
3. Consider your experience level
Beginners should start smaller and softer.
More advanced users may enjoy larger, firmer, or textured designs.
4. Think about budget
High-quality toys cost more but tend to be:
- safer
- quieter
- longer-lasting
- more powerful
Lube: Your Best Friend
Lube improves pleasure, reduces friction, and makes everything safer.
Water-Based Lube
Safe for all toys and easy to clean. Good all-round choice.
Silicone-Based Lube
Super slick and long-lasting. Great for anal play.
Do NOT use with silicone toys unless you know it’s compatible.
Oil-Based Lube
Best for body-to-body massage, not ideal for latex condoms or most toys.
✔ Always clean toys before and after use
✔ Use a flared base for all anal toys
✔ Start slow, especially with new sensations
✔ Use plenty of lube
✔ Store toys in clean, dry places
✔ Do not share toys without condoms
✔ Check charging ports and batteries for damage
Here are safe, versatile, beginner-friendly options:
A toy cleaner or gentle soap
A small clitoral vibrator
A silicone dildo with a gentle curve
A beginner butt plug
A basic silicone cock ring
Water-based lubricant
